How to make a memory table
A funeral is a relatively short event. It is a small window of opportunity to celebrate an entire existence with others and gather everyone’s memories. A well delivered eulogy can give us an impression of the deceased but a memory table gives an instant visual representation of what made that person unique.
A memory table is a lovely way to create, and share, a real portrayal of the person who has died.
As we continue to move towards personalized funeral ceremonies photographs are now a common sight. A memory table is an opportunity to use, not only photographs, but also, (for want of a better word), ‘props’ to capture our loved one’s life and passions.
Most people opt for a few key items to represent their loved one’s occupation, interests or hobbies – perhaps a fishing hat, football boots, team scarf, a favourite book or golf ball. Anything that will remind people of what was important to them. People are, generally, at a loss for something to say at a funeral reception so the memory table also acts as a talking point for mourners to focus on. It’s an important time for sharing stories and memories and the table will help to get everyone started. How about placing a memory book or paper and pens on the table for people to leave messages or share stories? You might wish to leave a space for others to bring significant photographs or objects.
The act of selecting items and arranging the table can be a great comfort to those mourning. It allows an opportunity for family members to really focus on the positive aspects of the deceased and remember the joy they brought to them. It’s also something constructive to do at a time when it can be difficult to deal with everyday tasks.
Where do you put a memory table?
The cremation or burial venue is not usually the best place for a memory table. It should be situated where people have time to look at it and gather round it. The most common choice is the wake or reception, either at home or an outside venue.
A memory table will mean different things to different people – and that’s the point! There can’t be exact instructions on how to convey a lifetime of emotions, events and memories.
It’s something to think about for those of us taking an active role in our own funeral planning. Do you have some ideas about objects that could be used to say something about your life?
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